Sunday, May 09, 2004
Ok, so there is this guy. We'll call him jam. Perhaps we wrote about him in a recent post. His bday party was held at a house in the neighborhood that houses some people who are able to make decisions that affect a community space. Apparently his gf lives there.
Great. Anyhow, the day after the party he lost his cellphone at the community space. He called me 4 days later, 4 days later, at 11pm to tell me about his missing cell phone and about some anti-gentrification graffiti that was written on the fence and sidewalk at the aforementioned house. He wanted to know if I knew anything about the graffiti. I said that from his description it sounded like it was in the same style as some artwork that I saw on Telegraph Ave in Berkeley. (now I am not so sure). He told me that I should go outside and look at it. I said that I would, the next day. It was gone when I went to see it the next day. Anyhow, I did send an email to the people from the community space about both things. I cc'ed him on the email as promised. The next day, which was a very busy day for me, I received some weird email from him: "Thanks for writing the message...I didn't see your CC...also thanks for
listening to me vent about my pitiful little woes, and for coming to the
birthday party. Too bad the residents weren't there so you could meet
some of them. Patty Pink said she especially liked meeting you and Zach.
She was super helpful about the party too." I didn't read it until like today. I wrote to him today and said, "did you make it to the (space) to try to look for the phone? I'd imagine
that even if you'd left it there in some weird place it would have been
gone by then...
It was nice to finally meet your girlfriend (is that who patty pink is?).
It is kind of silly that I don't know those neighbors (from the party space) very much. My old
housemate used to try to stay in contact with them more. I am moving a
few blocks southwest this month.
How was the ride on Friday- did you make it?"
Today my phone rang as I was closing the door to the dressing room at the military surplus store (3:30), trying on some shorts. He was like I didn't get your email. I was like I sent it to you at () and he was like, "I haven't used that address in TWO YEARS. (voice rising more and more) I made very sure to tell EVERYONE...!!!!!...!!!!!)" I had to hang up on him. I don't need that energy when I am making my annual purchase of one pair of long pants, and throwing in some shorts and a bandana as well. His call probably made me spend extra money.
So, at 3:32 he wrote: subject: "why are you avoiding me?
mahtin,
you hung up...i guess you're not interested in truth.
you're hiding what you wrote about me.
what else are you making up about me?
why are you so mean to me? what on earth have i done to you?
what's the goal? what are you really working for?
j"
SCARY!
I said:
"as a separate email I will forward you the text of the email that I
sent to my fellow Long Haul volunteers and to (your other email address) late Thursday
night after your 11:00pm phone call.
As you know, the space is not responsible for lost items. I have
looked at the fence and sidewalk around the (House in question) several times
on Friday and Saturday and did not see the paint to which you referred on
Thursday.
The reason I hung up on you earlier this afternoon was that you were
scaring me.
When I answered the phone I was not aware that you were going to start
yelling at me. I didn't know that your email address is no longer
(the old one), and I didn't understand that you had not received the
email that I had cc'ed you on the other day.
Please don't contact me about this matter again, since I don't think there
is anything that I can do to help you.
-full name"
so of course he can't give up, he has to have the last word:
"(Nickname),
Thank you -- although I must say you are greatly exaggerating my tone.
I never "shouted" at you and I am surprised if I really "scared" you.
When women claim that men are being abusive falsely, it is a sign that
they themselves are abusive.
J"
Sounds like it's time for a visit from Berkeley Mental Health!
Oh, I forgot to mention that photos of the graffiti are part of a display at the Anti-Gentrification Art Show at the community space this week! I saw them tonight. I can't tell if the writing on the display is part of it or not (someone might have defaced it).
email me at haydees@gmail.com
Great. Anyhow, the day after the party he lost his cellphone at the community space. He called me 4 days later, 4 days later, at 11pm to tell me about his missing cell phone and about some anti-gentrification graffiti that was written on the fence and sidewalk at the aforementioned house. He wanted to know if I knew anything about the graffiti. I said that from his description it sounded like it was in the same style as some artwork that I saw on Telegraph Ave in Berkeley. (now I am not so sure). He told me that I should go outside and look at it. I said that I would, the next day. It was gone when I went to see it the next day. Anyhow, I did send an email to the people from the community space about both things. I cc'ed him on the email as promised. The next day, which was a very busy day for me, I received some weird email from him: "Thanks for writing the message...I didn't see your CC...also thanks for
listening to me vent about my pitiful little woes, and for coming to the
birthday party. Too bad the residents weren't there so you could meet
some of them. Patty Pink said she especially liked meeting you and Zach.
She was super helpful about the party too." I didn't read it until like today. I wrote to him today and said, "did you make it to the (space) to try to look for the phone? I'd imagine
that even if you'd left it there in some weird place it would have been
gone by then...
It was nice to finally meet your girlfriend (is that who patty pink is?).
It is kind of silly that I don't know those neighbors (from the party space) very much. My old
housemate used to try to stay in contact with them more. I am moving a
few blocks southwest this month.
How was the ride on Friday- did you make it?"
Today my phone rang as I was closing the door to the dressing room at the military surplus store (3:30), trying on some shorts. He was like I didn't get your email. I was like I sent it to you at () and he was like, "I haven't used that address in TWO YEARS. (voice rising more and more) I made very sure to tell EVERYONE...!!!!!...!!!!!)" I had to hang up on him. I don't need that energy when I am making my annual purchase of one pair of long pants, and throwing in some shorts and a bandana as well. His call probably made me spend extra money.
So, at 3:32 he wrote: subject: "why are you avoiding me?
mahtin,
you hung up...i guess you're not interested in truth.
you're hiding what you wrote about me.
what else are you making up about me?
why are you so mean to me? what on earth have i done to you?
what's the goal? what are you really working for?
j"
SCARY!
I said:
"as a separate email I will forward you the text of the email that I
sent to my fellow Long Haul volunteers and to (your other email address) late Thursday
night after your 11:00pm phone call.
As you know, the space is not responsible for lost items. I have
looked at the fence and sidewalk around the (House in question) several times
on Friday and Saturday and did not see the paint to which you referred on
Thursday.
The reason I hung up on you earlier this afternoon was that you were
scaring me.
When I answered the phone I was not aware that you were going to start
yelling at me. I didn't know that your email address is no longer
(the old one), and I didn't understand that you had not received the
email that I had cc'ed you on the other day.
Please don't contact me about this matter again, since I don't think there
is anything that I can do to help you.
-full name"
so of course he can't give up, he has to have the last word:
"(Nickname),
Thank you -- although I must say you are greatly exaggerating my tone.
I never "shouted" at you and I am surprised if I really "scared" you.
When women claim that men are being abusive falsely, it is a sign that
they themselves are abusive.
J"
Sounds like it's time for a visit from Berkeley Mental Health!
Oh, I forgot to mention that photos of the graffiti are part of a display at the Anti-Gentrification Art Show at the community space this week! I saw them tonight. I can't tell if the writing on the display is part of it or not (someone might have defaced it).
email me at haydees@gmail.com
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